When you hear "inheritance", the asset should come to mind, but the author's "inheritance of the heart" is a bit different. We inherit not only property as things but also "things without shape". This book was written in order to think of such intangible inheritance as the reader.
The author, Mr. Hiroyuki Itsuki, doubts that only "formal things" are the subject of inheritance talks these days. It is not only visible property that we inherit from parents and homes. For example, how to eat fish, take off shoes, and brush your teeth. There are many intangible "inheritances" inherited from parents and homes in these everyday works. The author calls this intangible inheritance "heritage of heart" and sheds light on its importance. This includes not only individual inheritance but also social inheritance such as society, nation, culture, and history.
Even if there are many people who have thought about how to inherit tangible property, there may be few who have pondered about the inheritance of intangible property. Even if you think that there is no property to inherit from your parents, you may come up with a memorable story you want to hear or a habit to inherit.
"Inheritance of the heart" may be a topic that is often left behind in a busy life. But the time to think about what you have inherited, want to inherit, and what you want to inherit for your children and their generation can be very valuable. Let's start thinking about "inheritance of the heart" with this book as the entrance.
Main points of this book
People inherit many intangible and invisible things from their parents and generations. This inheritance of intangibles is called "inheritance of the mind", and it is necessary to notice its importance.
Parents should tell their children as much as they walked about in life. You don't have to look good. Exposing the weakness will remain in the child's mind as an important asset.
In the inheritance of collective memory, the memory of war is always one that should be taken over. The reality of the war from the perspective of the individual, not the big picture, is that misery seems to stand out.
What is heart inheritance?
Intangible inheritance that teaches you how to eat fish
The author has come to be invited to speak on the theme of "inheritance". Let me introduce the episode that triggered it. After a meeting with a publisher, the author had a meal with several editors. After finishing the grilled fish set meal, I was surprised to see it on the plate of a female editor who was in his 20s. The fish bones lay neatly on the plate, just like a specimen. "I've never seen anyone eating grilled fish so beautifully." The author said the editor told me that his mother was noisy about how to eat fish. Her mother herself used to be careful about how to eat fish in the past, so to speak, she was the third generation of fish to eat.
What suddenly came to my mind then was that inheritance from parents and homes was not the only property. The way we eat fish is just one example, but we may inherit many invisible things. If so, I thought I should think about what I had inherited and what I should inherit for my children and their generations.
The interview will include this episode, and the author will give a lecture on this subject. One day, the author himself, who had long thought that he hadn't inherited anything from his parents, realized that he had inherited something that was, indeed, invisible. The author calls this inheritance of things that do not have this form "inheritance of the heart."
Inheritance from parents
Regret not having "memory inheritance"
The author did not inherit any "form" from his father. However, recently I have realized that I have inherited intangibles and various invisible things.
There is a time when the author stayed in his father's parents' house in a mountain village in Kyushu after he was withdrawn from Korea. Plant rice and wheat in a small arable land. Take bamboo shoots. Take the goby fruit. The author realized that he didn't even know the date of birth of his father, who was born into a farmer's family, which means "do anything". There was no "inheritance of memory". I regret why I didn't listen to my father when he was younger or when he was younger.
The fact that the mother died early in her 40s and her father in her 50s was part of the reason her parents could not inherit the memory. However, that did not mean that I hadn't had a chance to hear it.
Parents must tell the child as much as they can about their path during life. It is not the only thing a child should inherit from a parent.
Still, the author has many inheritances that his father cannot see. One is the etiquette of cherishing books. Due to his father's influence, the author still avoids crossing books and folding pages. I learned from my father, who was a teacher of Hanbun, Shigin, even now that I had a bad memory.
Impressive to the mother is the singing while playing the organ in the corner of the corridor. The mother liked the lyrical nursery rhymes and songs. Therefore, the author is still interested in Japanese nursery rhymes and songs. I feel that the fact that my childhood memories are accompanied by lyrical nursery rhymes is a legacy that my mother left behind. In retrospect, there are many inheritances from my parents.
Weight of sighing father
The most impressive memory of the author's father is his deep sigh. After drinking a beer in the evening, his father turned over and sighed, "Ah!". Now, I feel empathy and nostalgia for such father's figure, "Isn't it difficult?"
Born to the third son of a farmer, the author's father became a primary school teacher, looking for something to learn for free. While studying for the exam, I spared time to study and went to the foreign land. Then, while passing through schools in remote areas, he passed several certification tests. We went up the stairs step by step with elementary school teachers in Seoul and teachers from Pyongyang Normal School. When I thought I had finally reached this point, I had a defeat. His father's ambitions and family collapsed, eventually drowning in alcohol in the morning and becoming lethargic.
Father's sigh seems to be a kind of "negative heritage". However, the weight of the sigh had a great meaning in the author's life, and gave the courage to live. You don't have to keep showing your child a great father and a good mother. Rather than exposing yourself to weaknesses, it may be a valuable asset that will remain in your child's mind.
Inheritance of history
A memory of the war that should not be forgotten
The greatest theme of "inheritance of heart" is "inheritance of memory". The greatest of these is war. It is the memory of the war that the authors, who are generations who know about the war, must convey it.
If you don't know the reality of the war, you might think that the war is fighting the enemy. But that is not the case. Before the battle there was a miserable life on the battlefield. When it comes to war, it is often the case that the death of a war victim is depicted. In reality, however, there were far more deaths due to war illnesses such as malaria and dysentery, and starvation due to food shortages, than deaths due to combat. The number of soldiers who committed suicide due to despair caused by illness or illness was endless, and the suicide rate of the Japanese army was said to be the highest in the world.
The death of soldiers, which is different from the death of honor, is the death of 350,000 warships. Soldiers rushed into a quick-dispatched transport ship are easily targeted by US Navy submarines. When the ship was about to sink, they died without escape or rescue. Lifeboats were limited, and soldiers scrambled for floating objects on the sea, giving the appearance of a hell picture.
When the war situation deteriorates and the team withdraws, it becomes a problem to deal with injured soldiers who cannot walk. Those who shoot guns were ordered to take suicide poison after resisting the enemy. Furthermore, there were not a few sick and wounded soldiers who committed suicide by being told that if they decided to commit themselves here, they would treat them as death instead of killing them.
Fact of sex entertainment that was prostrated
Recently, the fact of having sex in Old Manchuria and North Korea at the time of defeat has come to be talked about. In negotiations with the Soviet army, certain women were tendered as comfort women to Soviet officers and hundreds of humans escaped collective self-determination. Women were teased by fellow men even at the time of the "entertainment", even though the lives of many were saved by their sacrifice. After returning to Japan, even people who knew the facts would be discriminated against. It's hard to imagine that not only the insult experience, but the subsequent slander would have hurt their minds and bodies.
In extreme situations like war, humans are no longer humans. From the perspective of each person's point of view of the reality of war, there is no shortage of cases where one might want to look away. If you know this situation, you shouldn't be able to say something like "War is good".
[Must-read point!] Inheritance by recollection
Shimoyama of life is a proper time for inheritance by recollection
So far, we have seen that "inheritance of the heart" extends from individual quirks to history. So how do we inherit these things to the next generation?
According to the "Yin Yang Five Way Theory" advocated in ancient China, life is divided into four periods: "youth", "juju", "white autumn", and "genuyu". Youth and Zhu Xia are the growing seasons of climbing the mountain of life, and you can reach the summit without looking away. The time for the descending mountains to arrive is white autumn and the winter.
However, it does not mean that we are not descending because our strength has diminished. The author regards this period as "maturity". Even when climbing a mountain, when descending, look back at the mountain you climbed up and soak up the satisfaction, aiming for the foot while keeping in mind the scenery in the distance. Similarly, only when we descend in the second half of our lives will we be able to afford to come and go. The author considers this period to be the appropriate period for "inheritance by recollection."
Open the drawer of happy memories
At the descent of the mountain, people forget everything. At that time, one of the clues to remember is "junk." In Proust's "In Search of the Lost Times," there is a scene in which the taste of Madeleine soaked in tea revives childhood memories. Similarly, even if it is junk, there are many clue to recollection in the items that I have at hand.
Even the songs that were being sung at that time often bring out memories of that time. The songs that were really being sung at that time are rarely introduced in TV's "nostalgic melody". In that sense, the song I really want to convey may be in my memory.
As you get older, you will be scolded more often for the same story. The author is one of them, but it seems that they are repeating the same story, often with more precise details. Perhaps it is because I remember various things and organize my recollections.
For various reasons, a person can open a drawer of memory. Some people say that they look backward when they look back over the past many times, but in the case of elderly people, if they look forward, they will die. So it's never a bad idea to recollect a happy memory. When I think about the days that have passed by, warm things spread to my heart. What a happy time this is!
Manners to convey, manners to receive
The listener may be tempted to point out the same story over and over. But in order to prevent the speaker's dementia, it seems better to listen patiently and listen to related episodes to broaden their memory. Recollection has been shown to help improve cognitive function and is now being incorporated into rehabilitation of dementia.
Above all, what is most memorable in people's hearts is the encounter with the people of each meeting. The author himself has had many unforgettable encounters. In the world of Buddhism, "face-to-face", where the teacher teaches his disciples face to face, is important. “Inheritance of heart” must also be an interview. With the spread of the Internet these days, chances for interviews are decreasing. However, it can be said that the feeling transmitted from the real voice is "life" in human words.
The author regrets not hearing his parents. I think it would have been better to listen to the negative part, the story that you did not want to talk about, not the success story. I listen to it repeatedly with the kind of tenacity of listening to root digging and leaf digging. And the failure story that parents just talk about is full of elements that can be useful for living.
Increase the inheritance of the heart
Individual inheritance creates history
Looking at it in this way, it seems that many of the "inheritance of the heart" suggest "a way of life." Those that are inherited unconsciously will be inherited even if the memory is reduced. Everyone has various tangible and intangible inheritances. And if you think about inheritance, you will have as much inheritance as you can.
The author hopes that parents will have a chance to improve their heart's inheritance. And for those with children, I encourage them to tell their children about their old days. History is created by the inheritance of individuals. There can be no history without personal talk.
Recommendation of reading
"Inheritance of heart" is a point of view that is hard to notice on a daily basis. However, when you read this book, its importance is conveyed. Inheriting many “invisible things” from parents and generations would have to start earlier than the inheritance counseling. Even if you keep this perspective from early on, there must be an abundance of "intangible things" that can be inherited.
This book is an interesting development as it also covers inheritance from group to group, such as culture, customs, and ethnicity. If you read through it, you will be able to consider inheritance as a citizen living in society from the perspective of what you want to pass on to future generations. Through it, you should be able to get a chance to live a richer life.