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Review

This book is not a manual book for housework. It is a psychology book that "the mess of the room and the mind disappears" by encouraging a change of consciousness, saying that what you want to clean up but cannot clean up is not a problem of ability but a problem of mind.

"Because the brain cannot prioritize the clutter" "Autoimmunity interferes with cleaning up" "Lonely people are not good at cleaning up" "Trauma interferes with cleaning up" … In short, it cannot be cleaned up People = sloppy people, not sloppy people. Rather, he is a delicate, sensitive and serious person. That's why, by not blaming yourself, not worrying about others, and being free from the belief that you have to clean up, you will be able to clean up on the contrary-this is the author's claim.

It seems that many people in the world are worried that they cannot clean up, and bookstores are full of books on the theme of "cleaning up." This book takes a different approach from any of them, and shows a concrete solution as "Oshima-style easy cleaning method". The author's experiences, which are told in some places, are also readable and should be read with sympathy.

The author says that tidying up will change the past and relationships, seize opportunities, and return to the beautiful true self. If you've been "no matter what you do", please read it and give it a try.

Main points of this book

Point 1

You can't get rid of it, not because you lack the ability. It may be due to the imbalance between "verbal intelligence" and "movement intelligence".

Point 2

In order to be able to be tidied up, you need to change your mind. Never blame yourself. When you stop using it, "fun hormones" are secreted and you can enjoy cleaning up.

Point 3

It is also effective to hypnotize yourself. Before imagining yourself that you can't get rid of, let's give a suggestion by imagining yourself that you can get rid of in a hypnotic state.

Point 4

If you put it away, you will feel more confident in yourself and your relationships will improve.

Why can't I get rid of it

Because my brain is out of balance

If you want to get rid of it, you can't get rid of it, not because you lack the ability. This is because the brain is out of balance.

If only "verbal intelligence" or "movement intelligence" is superior, things cannot be prioritized, and it is not possible to concentrate on tidying up and sort out what is needed and what is not needed. For example, in the case of the author, even if he thinks "I have to clean up!", If there is a magazine there, "interest in the magazine" will exceed and it will not be possible to clean up.

People in this state cannot not only clean up but also clean up. Even if I notice that there is dust in the room, I just mess around.

This is also a matter of priority in the brain. If you try to force this type of person to "clean up", you may feel depressed or muffled and unstable, so be careful.

I'm trying to get rid of it perfectly

Perfectionists sometimes think "I want to clean a dirty room!" But can't actually take action. Because I want to do it perfectly because I do it. As a result of imagining various things in my head, "that and this too", I give up. Even if I want to throw away a book I haven't read, I think I have to check the contents of the book properly. What's more, it's annoying to think about taking unnecessary books to a second-hand bookstore instead of just throwing them away. Just planning in my head makes me tired, and as a result, the room never gets tidied up.

The author also had a mysterious experience when he was a college student who suddenly became able to clean up. As soon as I left my parents' house and started living in a place where my mother couldn't reach, I was able to get rid of it.

Looking back on this experience as an adult, I found that the jealousy of my mother was at the root. The author's mother is also a type who is not good at throwing things away. The more the author tried to clean the room, the more sensitively he felt the jealousy of his mother, "It's more sly than I am!", And as a result, I couldn't get rid of it. That's right.

How to change to yourself

Don't give up on yourself

In this book, several methods are introduced as "how to change to yourself". The summary will cover three of them.

First, don't blame yourself for being unclean. The more you use it, the more tension hormones are secreted. On the other hand, when you stop using it, the secretion of hormones of tension diminishes, and instead, "hormones of fun" are secreted. Then, it becomes more and more fun to clean up, and I like to feel "feel good!" In a clean room.

If you want to get rid of it again, let's cut off that thought, "I won't get rid of it!". You should be able to work properly and take action.

Throw away your memory with things

People who can't throw away things may not be able to throw away their memories. The reason why the wrapping paper that received the gift cannot be thrown away is not because it is thought that it may be used someday, but because it is filled with "memories of the joy of receiving the gift." You may think that you will lose your memory if you throw it away, and that you will no longer be yourself.

However, if you do not throw things away forever, you will also save the unpleasant feelings contained in them as a set. The unpleasant feelings may hurt you unknowingly.

By throwing away things and throwing away your memories, you will be able to organize your own memories and lead a beautiful life. Therefore, when you want to organize your room, first try to throw away what you think is "mottainai" that is hard to throw away.

Increase self-efficacy

Those who cannot be cleaned up may have been dominated by "a feeling of helplessness." They have decided that "I can't change this situation anyway" and "I can't change myself".

Those who cannot easily get out of the feeling of helplessness that cannot be cleaned up should increase their "self-efficacy". Self-efficacy is the feeling that one's potential is recognized as "performing the necessary actions in a certain situation." It's surprisingly easy to increase self-efficacy. It is good if you can recognize that you can perform the necessary actions well in a certain situation. The simplest method is "breathing". By controlling breathing by "inhaling" and "exhaling" at 1.1 times the normal speed, you can feel that you are performing the necessary actions, and your self-efficacy will increase. If 1.1x isn't enough, try 1.2x.

[Must read point] Use suggestion and unconsciousness

Say "People are indifferent to themselves"

This book introduces a method of cleaning up using suggestion or unconsciousness as the "Oshima-style easy cleaning method".

The first thing shown is how to use your habit to clean your room. If you feel uncomfortable saying "you have to clean up", say "people are indifferent to you".

The human brain is networked with the person who is paying attention, and the tension of the person is transmitted, and the unpleasant sensation of the frustrated person is transmitted. Therefore, if you are scared of "jealousy", you will pay attention to "the person who is jealous" and connect with the other party through a brain network. In such a case, if you say "people are indifferent to me", you will not pay attention to others, and your brain network will be turned off. Then, the tension in the brain disappears and it becomes possible to get rid of it.

Use paradoxical suggestions

Here's how to get rid of the "must get rid of" belief. When "verbal intelligence" is higher than "movement intelligence", there are many things to do in my head, such as "I have to do that, I have to do this too", but I can't prioritize them. I can't get rid of it.

For such a person, let's dare to say, "If you don't clean up, stop." This is an implied technique called "paradox". Then, the body starts to move like automatic driving, and the room can be cleaned up naturally.

Leave it unconsciously

There is also a way to effectively use the unconscious power. The more you feel like "I have to do it!", The more nervous you become, but your body tries to relieve that condition. Therefore, on the contrary, it becomes sloppy to say "OK!". Let's take advantage of this mechanism.

The point is to give yourself the suggestion that "the unconscious will do it automatically" when you wake up. Specifically, if you try to wake up and say "Unconscious schedule for today's day," you will naturally move.

You don't have to blame yourself if you give the suggestion that the unconscious will do it for you. As a result, the secretion of hormones of tension that makes it impossible to act as expected is reduced, and you can act unconsciously.

Set low-key goals

It is also recommended to clean up the room for the purpose of taking care of it. As soon as the author himself declared to his roommate, "I want to invite a girl to the room!", His limbs became lighter and he started cleaning when he noticed.

Behind this is the author's attitude toward "cleaning up." Since I regarded myself as a "bad person who can't clean up", I had the belief that I should be able to clean up and become a better person. He had the lofty goal of becoming a wonderful person.

The reason why I was able to get rid of it as soon as I said "I want to invite a girl to the room" is because the mechanism that "it is easier to achieve a low-key goal than a lofty goal" is working. If you set a lofty goal, you will be jealous of others, and as a result, you will not be able to achieve your goal.

For example, the goal of "cleaning the room and calling parents" is too high. In order to avoid jealousy, it is better to take care of yourself as much as possible, so even if you have a partner, let's set the goal of "making a room where you can call good-looking men when there is no partner". Similarly, it's more effective to clean up to make your partner uncomfortable than to clean up to please your partner.

Hypnotize yourself

The last thing I'll show you is how to get rid of the implications that bind you and put them in a hypnotic state. This is to hypnotize yourself.

The moment I thought, "Let's get rid of it!", I thought, "I wouldn't do it again," and when I think of myself as being sloppy, I'm in a "hypnotic state." The state of "spend lazily" becomes a "suggestion", and it works as it is.

How can I avoid that suggestion? When you think about getting rid of it and you think you can't do it, you give a suggestion to the image of yourself getting rid of it in a hypnotic state. Hypnosis is suspicious, but in reality, I'm just solving the intense hypnosis that I'm putting on myself, "I can't clean up."

The future will shine so much after cleaning up

Gain confidence in yourself and change relationships

What if I try the method suggested by the author and get rid of it? It is human relationships that the author himself has a clear sense of change. Being able to clean up gave me confidence and I wasn't scared in public.

The author hasn't changed since he was a child, and he felt like he was being cursed that he couldn't get rid of it. I felt that I couldn't get rid of it, so my friends would bullied me, and I would be in a position to be despised in any relationship.

However, he rewrote the memories of the past as if he had traveled back in time. It is said that he gained confidence by breaking the curse.

Never miss a chance

If you don't clean up, you will always blame yourself for "cleaning up" somewhere in your heart. It feels like your brain is constantly tense and impatient. As a result, in the event of an emergency, my head will turn white and I will miss the chance.

When you can clean up, you will be able to clean up your head and calm down. Then you should be able to miss many chances.

Recommendation of reading

There are many books that specifically show how to clean up, but unlike them, this book focuses on the causes of "not motivated" and "cleaning up does not go as expected" and their solutions. This is a unique book that teaches you how to change your mind and succeed in cleaning up from your own perspective.

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